"I wasn't the best looking guy in high school. Then at about 16, boom, I suddenly became attractive to women. I still had no idea how to interact with women at all though.
At 22 I started to get minor modelling gigs. Fast forward to 2010, I found this girl on Facebook I had been in love with since 6th grade. She just went through a divorce so I spilled my guts, we were always friends but she didn't know my feelings. I flew home to Sacramento from Dallas just to see her. It was like instantaneous love! For four days we were in an intense feeling of love! My dreams literally came true! We planned for her to visit Dallas, bought a ticket.
Well, she fooled around on me. I still smile because I finally had a legitimate dream come true. Everything I wanted from 8 years old to 18 happened. That's what counts."
"I had a crush on her all through freshman and sophomore year. She kissed me at the end of sophomore year. I failed to reciprocate and basically ran away from her. I had extreme social anxiety.
I switched schools after disappearing for the summer, but when school started again I walked to her school everyday for half of the year in hopes of having the balls to make a move. I saw her each day. I failed each day.
She obviously got tired of waiting, ended up with another guy, I gave up.
Come end of senior year she shows up at my school to see some guy. She saw me, literally jumped into my arms and forced her phone number on me.
We've been together seven years come November. I proposed to her around a week ago."
"When I was in first year I had the stupidest little girl crush on this guy in my program and I had no idea how to express it, so I think I thoroughly creeped him out with my staring and pathetic attempts to get him to have coffee with me and such.
That was eight years ago and I've really matured as a person since then, I hadn't even thought of him in years when I ran into him. I was actually excited to find out he worked at a store I was planning to go to, I thought 'I can finally have a normal conversation with my crush, he'll see I'm not a creepy weirdo anymore!'
When I ran into him our conversation went like this:
Me: 'Hey, how's it going?'
Him: 'Good thanks, how are you?'
Me: 'Good thanks, how are you?'
And then it just spiralled into awkwardness from there."
"I ran into her some years later in our mid-twenties at a New Year's party.
We were both just recently single and started to click. Eventually, we both confessed to a mutual crush in high school.
Then as the night went on and beer flowed, she hooked up with two random guys in the living room."
"Her last name is very close to mine so throughout high school our lockers were together or we'd have seats in class next to each other. She was a cheerleader, incredibly beautiful, and also a cool person. We were friends but nothing close.
I ran into her four years later. She dropped out of college and is waiting tables now. She's even more beautiful now, and still a really nice girl! I didn't ask her out though because I've had a girlfriend for two years."
"I liked her when we were 15 but she wasn't very nice to me. I ran into her when we were 23 and she looked so old I didn't recognize her.
When she realized I didn't recognize her, she began to cry and ran to the bathroom. I never saw her again."
"We went out for drinks and I was still fixated on her. I was given a chance but I got wasted and embarrassed myself by spending so much of the night talking about how much my younger self liked her. I kept extolling her virtues like it was years ago. I mentioned how crazy and awesome it was that I was finally getting my chance.
it was very sad. I didn't realize how bad I messed up until I sobered up. I woke up and immediately knew I would not be given a second opportunity. I finally saw her reactions and responses from the previous night with a sober eye.
I realized the massive amount of 'I'm going to be polite, but I've made a mistake' that was continuously written across her face.
It was embarrassing as the dickens."
"I met her when I was 13, we both totally crushed. Fast forward to when we're both 23, she has a kid from a previous marriage, but it didn't bother me.
We got married, she cheated on me and tried to take me for child support for her daughter. I wouldn't recommend it."
"We started a small thing when we were around 17 years old . it didn't work out because she was spoiled and I was a pretty heartless jerk.
Fast forward a few relationships for us both, 11 years of growth, and she came back into my life a few months ago . We're dating and life is pretty good now couldn't ask for anything more. Sometimes it's the right person but the wrong time."
"My wife's former crush randomly messaged her on Facebook one day. She hooked up with him on day two. She's now my ex-wife, she's jobless living with his mom, and I have the kids.
My kids are 5 and 3 so they don't understand it much but I'm hoping for the long game when they realize which parent was really there for them. My son still says hurtful things at times like, 'I don't want to live with you anymore, I want to live with mommy' when he's angry."
"I had a crush on this girl in 1st grade. Playdates, video games, action figures. Life was good. I bought her a present at a five and ten because I thought she'd like it. It was a ring. She was ultra embarrassed and ran off. My parents still have not let me forget that. She changed schools that next year.
Fast forward 14 years. I graduated from undergrad, working for a company in my hometown and working on getting accepted to medical school. I was out for drinks one night with friends and who should come by but her?
She was beautiful, had great taste in music, she smiles at my jokes. I was smitten all over again.
Fast forward several more years. I gave her a ring again. She did not run away. We've been happily married several years."
"I saw her at the 10-year high school reunion.
She was there with her Ivy League fiancé and I didn't have the same feelings. These two facts combined to change my mindset from 'I wanna bang my HS crush at our reunion' to 'Oh well, never mind.'
At one point, we were being recognized for something, and with all eyes on us, she leaned over and said, 'I remember what a crush you had on me. You wanted me bad.'
First, I couldn't really react, given the immediate circumstances. Second, I didn't detect any kind of invitation in what she'd said. In fact, it almost seemed like she was just lording it over me. I mean, she was there with her fiancée, who, we'd determined in previous small-talk, she loved and who was awesome.
For some reason, it really pissed me off. I just gave her a blank look, shrugged, and walked away. To this day, I wish I'd had some kind of witty comeback, but that's about my only regret. I haven't seen her since, but I hope she's happy."
"I was in love with him for most of my lower teenage years. He was my best friend but I broke it off when i found out he'd been talking crap behind my back. I never thought he meant what he said about me, but I do know he was desperate to be liked by people, and didn't mind talking crap about me to seem cooler to them. Of course the people he talked to told me about it. I sent him a handwritten letter explaining what I'd heard, and also that I was still in love with him and couldn't be just friends.
We met up when I was 19, about three years since we'd last seen each other. He was as charming as he'd always been, and I realized how quickly we fell back into our previous rolls. Him, being cool but kind of a jerk, and me, hanging off his every word. I'm happy we met up because it gave me some closure to realize I didn't feel the same as I did about him, and that he was even more of a jerk. I still think about him sometimes but much more soberly than I did when we still hung out."
"I'll preface this by saying I had an extremely large crush on this girl from like 14/15 until 20. We were best friends, the typical 'beauty and the beast' situation, I was 370 pounds of not muscle, she was a blonde girl who for some reason became best friends with me. She dated all my friends, knew how I felt and never gave me the chance. Well fast forward now, I've been working out and while I'm no DiCaprio, I have the lumberjack thing going for me: big guy, big beard, big arms, just all around a big dude in the right way.
She comes to town 3 weeks ago and wants to have dinner, sure, we really haven't hung out in almost 8-10 years. So we go out and I can tell she's super into me, telling me how great I look, I've 'come into my own', grown up well, how there are no guys like me out west, talking about the good old days when we used to sleep in my bed and all that. She asked me what I'm doing after, that we should go to the bar, go for a swim at her house.
I just can't pass up saying 'no'. Besides the fact that I am with a woman who loves me for who I was before I got in shape, the satisfaction of saying, 'no thanks', was seriously worth all of those years of rejection, I'm a pretty confident guy but that dinner put me on cloud nine more than any revenge hook up ever could have. Also found out through a mutual friend she was asking around how serious I am with my significant other right now."
"I crushed hard and competed for a really cute girl in college but when she moved in with the other guy, I closed the door on things. Years later she sought me out on Facebook as apparently for her, I was 'the one that got away'.
It lead to an on again, off again relationship in which we determined the things we did best were fighting or hooking up, which we cycled through quarterly until about a four year break due to mutual animosity.
We made up, had an amazing year, and broke up again in a heart wrenching explosion that stings to this day."
"We had a beer, talked a bit, it was nice. She was even more beautiful than before. I was now in great shape, made decent money, decent haircut and clothes. I thought I had a shot, I cleaned up real good.
She never called me back when I asked her to go to a show. Last I looked on Facebook, she's married now."
"I had a crush on the daughter of my mom's friend when I was about ten years old. We would hang out a lot, sometimes all night when our mom's were working together at the coat check of the restaurant my dad valeted for. She was definitely my first big crush, but I was a shy, awkward kid. I remember one of the last times we hung out, I gave her my favorite Lion King trading card because I like her.
After our mom's got new jobs, we didn't see each other anymore. The next time I saw her was when we were 18. She was really different and even though she was still really cute, I didn't feel the same way about her. We talked for a bit and caught up.She showed me pictures of her kid. She had a beautiful baby boy that her mom looked after so she could finish school. It was a nice experience, especially finding out what she had been up to all those years."
"I had a crush on the high school quarterback, and his family was royal in my school. In terms of popularity, this guy wasn't just out of my league. He was out of my stratosphere.
Fast forward 10 years. I'm newly single and he looks me up online. Flirting and admitting I had a huge crush on him in school led to a date. Good for me right?
I get to his place and he's living in a the tiniest apartment (maybe 300 square feet?). Still driving that '89 pickup from high school. Still talking about how he was king of the world. He was still caught up in being worshipped in school and clearly couldn't grasp why the real world didn't do the same. Can you believe that he actually had to prove himself?
I ate dinner and got out of there."
"All through elementary and middle school I was absolutely in love with this one girl. As kids in elementary school we did that cutesy boyfriend/girlfriend thing without actually being in a relationship, I thought we would get married and have like a thousand kids.
In middle school she became a bad kid, I guess she had some trouble at home and her entire personality shifted during summer. She started hanging out with the kids who go arrested and was in and out of the principal's office non-stop.
I still tried hanging out with her because I was still crushing hard, but we were just too different now. I was into my own stuff, she was into hot topic and breaking laughs with other high schoolers. Eventually she was sent to youth detention center and that was the last I heard of her.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, I'm home on summer break from college and I find her on Tinder. We match and talk for a few days, she ended up getting knocked up in high school and dropping out due to being a single mom. She mentions meeting up for some coffee and maybe a movie at her place, I just unmatched her."
"I had a crush on this really pretty girl that was in my study hall, and I always tried to steal glances and check her out and all that, but I would never have dared to ask her out.
About a year ago I got a text from a number I didn't know, and I started talking to them. Surprise surprise, it was her. She told me she used to write poems about me in study hall. It hasn't gone any further than that but we do Snapchat and catch up occasionally."
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