You have to trust your gut! Sometimes that bad feeling you get better not be ignored. Like ESP or Spidey-sense, sometimes you just know when something is going to go wrong. But when you course-correct, things often work out, usually for the (much) better.
In these amazing stories, people talk about the times they sensed that something was up and they had better change course if they want things to work out. It's incredible how well they do work out too!
I dig up the email from the start of this post, hand that over, and the lawyer says it's a slam dunk case. She goes after both bonus payments from the first year, and both bonus payments from the current year, even though one of them hasn't happened yet. Company HQ calls me and tries to get me to drop it, and I refer them to my lawyer.
Glad I saved that email. Cover your behind, and do not let others push you around.
I learned a couple of things during this process, mostly during the call that I got from HQ. In the United States, bonuses are always discretionary no matter what's written anywhere, and I probably would have lost the case here. Also, in the offer, because they were quite aggressive about hiring me, they were promising a bonus, but it was a red flag to me that they didn't include it in the offer. Turns out for good reason.
Because I had that email where I specifically asked why it wasn't in the offer, but they said 'don't worry, it's in this email with my official company signature,' they were dead in the water.
A week later, at my new job, the lawyer informs me that they've paid all 4 bonus payments, and she also went after her own fees, so it cost me nothing."
"At the end of July, I took my daughter to the doctor for some nausea/stomach issues. The doctor ordered a bunch of blood tests and on reviewing her previous history, noticed that she had also been losing weight and had complaints of neck pain, so she also ordered a CT scan.
Found out later that day that she had a slow-growing brain tumor that had been growing for years. It had reached a point where it was blocking the flow of fluid from the brain ventricles into the spine and creating a lot of cranial pressure. The doctors jumped into action and got that all taken care of.
These tumors usually aren't caught early because all of the symptoms tend to be symptoms of other much more common illnesses. If your neck hurts in the morning, you might want to get a new pillow. At her previous visit, she complained of headaches. We discussed with the doctor quite a bit and he said he was inclined to believe they were diet related. We adjusted her diet, and the headaches went away and didn't come back.
It was good of the (different) doctor to order a CT at her next visit, but she wouldn't have been wrong if she hadn't.
The stars really aligned for her care. The tumor was found before it could cause any permanent damage. It happened when our family was poor enough that she was covered by Medical Assistance because we sure couldn't swing a $500k+ bill. Even with decent insurance, 3 weeks in ICU along with 2 brain surgeries will break a family. The tumor was discovered right before my busy season started, so I was able to stay in the hospital with her for the whole 3 weeks. She received amazing care, and life is almost completely back to normal. There's still some psychological stuff, but our time in the hospital together made us much closer, so I'm more able to help her with those things.
A few weeks ago the stomach issues came back - right after her follow-up MRI which showed that everything is clear. It turns out the stomach issue is mostly reflux. She started taking Zantac and it has gone away.
The doctor would have been doing her job well to have just treated the reflux and sent us on our way back in July, but it could have led to significant permanent damage."
"Four students of mine won the 1st prize for a project they did and we all got a free trip to London.
We had spent the day sightseeing and were exhausted so we got ice cream and sat on a bench in a park to relax. A couple of minutes later I notice this couple walk by slowly, staring at us. My spidey-senses go mental. I do not like these people for some reason. She walks by and sits on the bench next to ours and he sits on the bench across from hers. They aren't talking, just looking at each other.
And that is when I notice her reaching into her pockets.
I jump up, grab my students and run out of the park. My poor students are really confused and wondering what is wrong with me, when all of a sudden, we hear screaming. I couldn't believe what I had just saved us from.